Well that's how I have been feeling for the past many weeks now. Trying to reconnect to myself but those endless 13 seconds...oh man! And then the most unexpected of things makes me actually reconnect. It's a different matter reality makes me disconnect in just 13milliseconds - reality like the emptiness after a phone call. But before I lose the steam and say to myself - 'write what Jinu??' I will just scribble.
I went for a movie, zindagi na etc etc... and I felt I haven't been myself in so long. I have come a long way in the last 5 years - from being a dreamer to being pragmatic. It is so unfortunate and unbelievable that this transformation has left me so empty. I remember going on road trips when I was 18 or 20 or 22 and I'd let my hair fly, I'd pull out my sunglasses and have them switch the a/c off.. I'd plug my music and stare at endless farms and all I knew was I loved the wind on my face. I loved that green and brown and blue. I was lonely but I wasn't empty. I thought of lovers gone and lovers to come, I thought of best friends, of beautiful rainy days, of mad fun nights with girl friends and of quiet evenings with family. In the midst of all that I wished I had a cycle in the boot of the car or there was a river with a boat. I was happy when I traveled. I wanted to travel more and some more. I made long endless lists of places I wanted to visit - from going for car rallies in Germany to going to UK for the Wimbledon or simply hitting the beautiful Indian country side. That wanderlust is now gone and it has taken away the joy of the breeze. I now tie my hair tight and wear sunscreen and read books about successful businesses.
The quintessential Indian upbringing that I've had, I 've slept under the star-lit sky many a times as a child. I relived that joy a few years ago...on a rather weird night. It was a moment that lasted for all of 10 minutes but has stayed with me forever. On that night, someone said - I am the girl everyone wants to be with - carefree, independent, smart and yet a childlike excitement in everything I said or did. Soon after that night, the child died. My life was suddenly empty. I wanted to fill my emptiness with checklists. 1. Nice job 2. Good education 3. Life partner and many more such things. Some of them have come true and some are yet to materialize. What have these checklists made me? Unhappy, arrogant, hungry and dissatisfied. Well 4 such adjectives might be a bit of an exaggeration but its not too far from the fact. The idea was to have this checklist while I stayed in touch with myself but I guess it doesn't work that way. Well I am being unfair to my thus far wonderful life... after all every now and then I've let my hair down and had fun. But the point is I don't feel like myself any more. I love the fact that I am grown up, responsible and not a maverick but what the heck I feel I am trying to fill every empty space with one thing - marriage. Yes, my overrated, over discussed wedding. My poor fiance has been a victim of many a tortures because I stopped thinking about anything other than us and the life of 'togetherness' ahead of us. Togetherness of what? I asked myself today - of suffocation, possession and insecurity? That's not who I am. Latest signs disagree though! I am all of those and more. I am forever angry, forever cribby and forever unsatisfied. Only because I've stopped being myself, stopped letting go, stopped having fun, stopped being excited, stopped reconnecting.
While I've been pondering over how to be a better person through the day, the movie just helped me stir myself a bit. From tomorrow right now will begin a journey towards a better me. So here is the checklist, here are the action items things I will do, willfully, for a better me, a better life -
1. Manage anger - calm down. It's not always about you. Move away and look at it. If you are getting angry, just tell yourself - think about it again.
2. Manage relationships - Soulmates are different from lovers. Both need to be preserved. Lovers take the form of husbands and become fixtures but soulmates are drifters. Don't let them go.
3. Manage responsibilities - towards myself. I will do what ought to be done but I will not lose my sleep over it. Nothing is the end of the world.
4. Get a job - Not for money but for occupation. Empty mind is devil's workshop and depression's holiday home. I won't let them stay. I will get busy, productive. And I will know that not finding a job soon enough is NOT the end of the world for sure!
5. Read, relax - HBR doesn't help you unwind. It's a bit more noise. Read what helps you evolve as a person not as an employee.
Ok enough said. Here's to a better me. Adios Amigos!
Monday, July 18, 2011
Unable to reach GMail. Trying to reconnect now...13 seconds
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 12:37 AM 2 comments
Saturday, May 21, 2011
Self Evaluation
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 9:30 PM 2 comments
Monday, April 25, 2011
Tete-a-Tete with The Man
1. Tell us something about yourself - the way you are as a son, fiance, friend and/or an individual
Ans: I think as a son I would have preferred being a less annoying child in my adolescent years. I don’t think I was naughty kid, but I don’t think I have risen to my dad’s expectations and would like to be able to do so some day. As a fiance, this is an action item for Jinu (Jinu only responds to MBA/Office jargon and everything has to be presented to her as another action item). Friends, I don’t know if I can make friends like you do Jin, friends for whom you can do anything for. I have a very pragmatic relationship with my friends I guess. As an individual I am practical, passionate about computer security and emotional.
- You are such an eligible bachelor, pretty much any girl in the bay area would be on her knees to marry you. Why a girl so far away? Why Jinu?
- If you were to tell our audience 3 things about finding the right life-partner, what would they be?
- What have been the most exciting moments for you in the past few months?
- Have there been any ups and downs? How did the two of you deal with them?
- You must be rigorously planning your wedding now. Are you nervous, excited? Tell us how you feel right now.
- What are the things you are most looking forward to after getting married, other than the obvious of course :)
- What is the most special thing you've done to please her so far? Has she done something out of the ordinary for you?
- Where do you see yourself - the two of you and your relationship 10 years from now?
- Thanks a ton for your time and for telling us all these beautiful things. Do you have any closing comments? Any special message for her or our audience?
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 11:29 AM 1 comments
Saturday, March 26, 2011
Coming Soon!
So much to recollect and write about the beautiful mornings and gorgeous evenings that the last 1 year gave me. The mad parties, days of daze, sleeping in the class and finishing assignments until the deadline is a minute away, crazy friends, crazier parties, the insanely huge Holi.. oh God it was too much too soon. Hands down the fastest year of my life and it was as fast as it can get!
There is the moving to the US in October and the unending excitement about everything. Hopefully writing will happen more often. Amen!
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 1:13 AM 2 comments
Labels: Hyderabad 2, ISB, My life
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
I want to write
I really do. All I can think of writing is what I have been up to at B-skool. I know I am missing out on a great chance to document the best times of my life by not writing often. Isn't this how special moments become faint memories of the past?
Time is a big constraint with all the classes, assignments, club activities and not to mention, the parties :)
Falling in love is nice but settling in love is not so nice. Well I don't intend to harp over this for much longer because I don't want to read this ten yrs from now and think 'how lame were you girl'!
I should've probably made it a point to write 1 post after ever term, that is 2 posts by now and very close to the third. Will try this term break I guess. Life's good so far.
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 11:22 PM 1 comments
Labels: Hyderabad 2, Mba
Monday, May 17, 2010
Doing the due
Haven't been writing off late.. totally not a done thing. Life's been real hectic here with all the course work, exams and assignments. Its been a month and I feel exhausted already. 1 year's going to be tough!
I am glad I am where I am, not because the institute is of repute etc etc but because I feel like my purpose of learning is being met. I feel so much more intelligent in a month;s time...! The importance of having peers from diverse backgrounds and having certain years of work life experience makes so much sense. Learning here is holistic. My peripheral questioning has improved. I meet new people and I know how to be polite yet keep a distance - something I struggled to learn for many many years.
The long phone calls are still on and we seem to have reached a completely different level altogether. December is far but not quite so. It's a good feeling. Sometimes it gets a little tiring with all these long college hours but we seem to be managing well. If I choose to crib, I can find faults here too but I haven't had a nice experience in almost forever so I will focus on the beautiful for the moment.
Dad's on facebook and there is mass excitement among cousins and friends. Everyone seems kicked about it. I quickly changed privacy settings on some albums. Saw my little cousin's pictures on FB and I see he's grown up to be this really handsome young man. So proud of him. He's given me limited access to his profile. We used to be so close at some point.
None of my regular blogger friends seem to be reading/writing these days.. what has happened people?
I cant write in an interesting way anymore it seems. But I am happy as long as I write something every few weeks. I <3 you my blog.
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 11:59 PM 2 comments
Labels: Hyderabad 2, ISB, Mba
Sunday, April 25, 2010
Beginning of a journey called ISB
:)
That smile was for finally being able to open the once exploited link - www.blogger.com.
Here I am, at Hyderabad, after a 20 month break, 3 cities, -ve bank balance of 20 lacs and a few hundred kilos of apprehension. I am at the Indian School of Business. The much coveted B-School in India and as I'd like to believe, across the globe. This time not as a visitor or a candidate but as a student. A rather difficult 12 hr bus ride with dad and without mom, I entered the 260 acre campus 2 weeks ago, on 10th of April. I dont know if it was the tiring journey or the tiring paperwork or the load of expectations that almost instantly killed all the thrill of making it to this place, the moment I entered.
So far it's been 2 days of registration process, a week of orientation - or disorientation and another week of pre-terms i.e laying foundations of basic mathematics, statistics and accountancy. The O-week was all about team building activities in the hot Hyderabadi sun and the pre terms were about sitting dazed in every single class, hoping people would shut up. I've never seen such a confluence, of 500 people who all think they are the best and want to tell everyone that they are indeed the best. I don't mean to doubt the capabilities or the achievements of people who are here but the effort behind trying to get noticed is ridiculous to my mind. I have always considered showing off in any form - physical or intellectual as the ultimate sign of weakness and to a large extent inferiority complex. This theory of mine, is of course debatable. More so because I am trying to transform myself into a deeper, mature and accommodating person - so passing value judgements like this is definitely not going to help me be who I want to be. So hopefully, by the end of the year I would have proven my own theory incorrect.
I have been one hell of a reserved person in the last 2 weeks. Except for this one night when I went and actually hit the dance floor, I've consciously kept myself away from any form of limelight. Why try to fake it? Also I think introducing yourself individually to 500 people is a time taking and tiring task. And to make the process less monotonous for yourself, you have to come up with different tones and levels of excitement or introduce a new facet of yourself to everyone and exclude some already used adjectives about yourself. The bandwidth required for this task is huge and I have now simply given up. I dont speak unless spoken to and speak as little as I can - just to make enough conversation to acknowledge a question and to avoid traps of further small talk.
Tomorrow begins Core Term - 1 and so begins the madness to catch up with peers at class, finish assignments and prepare for midterms which are exactly 3 weeks from now. I can already see time flying.
The next one year, will hopefully be better than the last 1 year. Amen!
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 11:14 PM 0 comments
Labels: Hyderabad 2, ISB, Mba, My life
Monday, April 5, 2010
I am bigger than the bank and better than they want to believe
It's kinda odd how many drafts I have... incomplete, heart felt drafts that I never finished and posted because I am so drained out. The paperwork, guests at home, the sense of being lost is all so overwhelming. And then there are pipe dreams which become dreamier with every passing day.
Education loan papers haven't come yet and I have 48 hours from now to leave for Hyderabad. If I dont get it, then this is what my suicide note will say - "Too bored to apply for loan elsewhere. Will try being born in a richer family than go through this shit again, so bye peeps!"
I am missing having chai at the tea stall in Santacruz, next to my office and abandoning work for hours together to gossip about everything from homosexuality to infidelity and money to drugs with my only friend in that beautiful city. My hometown feels like its hit by a disaster and is just recovering from death....I miss the Bombay buzz!
I miss rummaging in my bag for a pack of milds and the matchbox. I miss the light-headed feeling after 2 drags and how the smoke takes some of the crap off my head through my lungs. After a couple of wreckless months, I am clean for about a month now and except for the occasional craving, I am good.
I slapped someone very 'random' in my dream. I don't know where it resurfaced in my memory after almost a year, and that too at a subconscious level, but it suddenly felt like there was a closure. Ah what a moment that was, so what if it was a dream! That slap which I can replay in mind in slow motion and savour as many times as I want... aah what an orgasmic feeling! I woke up smiling and feeling victoroius.
On second thoughts, what a loser I am to not have done this feat in real life... anyway!
I am suddenly lost after typing all this. But I am determined not to save to drafts but to publish post instead.
And yes, I am better than they can imagine. Ever.
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 11:45 PM 1 comments
Friday, March 19, 2010
Buddha Baap - The Old Man.
Daddy - my ultimate epitome of tall, dark and handsome. Yes, he is all 3 in an extremely handsome package. He had dumbbells at home to pump up his biceps and he played racquetball and went for a run and stayed fit. He is still just as fit. We watched Rambo on Star Movies year after year and I always said to him - He is Rambo without the scars. One near-death experience, 9 months on the hospital bed and he was smiling. Why? He was now a total Rambo, with the scars and all that. Yes, that's my daddy for me.
I beg, borrow, steal money from him. Ok let's put it this way - I snatch money from him in 3 ways - begging, borrowing and stealing. My dad has limited means but I know he will always find enough ways to give me money when I want it. All expensive things are bought by dad. Any place that accepts cards, daddy will buy me things. He is the one who gets those expensive shoes and cameras and clothes. He is not an ATM, he is a vending machine for everything.
He is the man who knows when I am thirsty and am not asking for water because I think its a hassle to stop the car. He is the one who knows I am longing for Jumbo glass Pineapple juice at our favorite stall. He is the one who promptly goes out at midnight to get emergency products on day 1 of my chums. He is the man who patiently waits outside the salon while I get excess hair plucked and nails polished. He is the one who can smell yummy Samosas and Jalebis from a kilometer and will drive in that direction no matter where he has to go. He is the one who will make us pack up our things at 9PM for a 6AM trip 600miles away. He is the dad who can make 20 lecherous men look away with just one stare. He is the one who knows exactly what kinda stuff I trip on when walking on the streets. He will still clutch my hand tight when I cross roads.
He is the one who is SO freaking proud of his 2 daughters and will talk about us anywhere, anytime and to anyone. He is the one who wakes up with a startle at the thought of me getting married and going away. He is the one who still loves me and protects me like I am a 2 year old. He is the one I hug, clutch, hit, shout at and do and say all nasty things to. He is the 6 ft tall man who, even after 30 years, smiles at his 5 ft short wife when she is yelling at him.
He is the man who made his way into the big nasty world - all by himself. He is the one who has never ever let anyone challenge his integrity. He is dignity personified. He has lived in limited means, raised his family maybe not in riches but with the maximum quantum of love ever. He is the ultimate family man and the awesomest father.
I love you daddy. I will probably never show you this blog but you should know that there is no one as important and dear to me as you. You are a dad better than one can even dream of. That tight hug and peck on your bald head 15 minutes ago was the daddy-daughter version of this post. I love you so much.
P.S: Buddha Baap in English translates to Old Father, Baap being the crass-est way of saying 'dad', in fact bordering rude. I've addressed my dad as Buddha Baap since I was 5.
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 8:05 PM 1 comments
Labels: Phamily..., Testimony of my love
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Checkmate
(Part 2 of Checklists)
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She reached home only to get the most dramatic and movie-like call of her life. She'd probably never imagined that what was to follow would be just as dramatic but with an end that only life can offer.
She was fiddling with the bunch of keys to figure which one was the right key and her phone buzzed. She is neatly arranged with her stuff, unlike most girls her age. She knows exactly which pocket the cell-phone is in. The phone said - D Calling...
She thought in an instant that she now had to deal with a delayed or canceled flight of a delayed or canceled love of her life. She answered the phone anyway
Him - "I did not board the flight. There's somethings we need to sort, to undo. There is mess in my head and I need you to sort this out."
Her - "You know the way. Get home. I'll order some food. Get some tea-leaves on your way back."
Him - "Ya we gonna need that. You are smart!"
They both giggled and hung up.
She knew what was coming her way. Life had been quite predictable for her and the predictability was the only surprising factor she had. He took just over 40 minutes to get home. The doorbell rang and she got the door. For a change, she was surprised.
It was as if they had exchanged emotions for hugs when she left him at the airport. She stood there, calm and peaceful, smiling, without a speck of anxiety on her face, like he usually does. And there he was, fiddling with his stuff, his phone, looking all clumsy - just the way she is around him at all other times. He did not know what was the right thing to do or say standing at the door like that. She stepped up, hugged him and said come on in. He seemed relieved. At least the awkward silence was gone.
He sat in the living room and said -
"Dont run inside to get dinner. Sit here. Right here. If I dont say it now, I can never say it. I've felt just as strongly as you have in the last couple of years. I've dated other women with you on my mind, just the way you dated other men without ever getting over me. I did not want you or me to get into something beautiful and then not know what to do about it. You and me together, with your career aspirations and my family ties, are a logistical nightmare. We will never work this out. But I understand very well that logic hasn't helped us much anyway. I want to finish this. I want to feel close to you and I want to cherish this as something more than a friendship. Its a mistake. But I want to do this. The ball is in your court."
And for the first time, she felt weak in her knees. She wanted this and she did not want this. She knew exactly what would happen if she denied him what he offered. She would never ever get over him. She will be an emotional wreck. She also knew what would happen if she gave in. She would live in the memory of that 1 day for years to come. She'd anyway not get over it.
This time around, her head and heart did not manage a healthy debate. There was no time. Her heart decided to call the shots and her body was a mere puppet in the hands of her heart. The next thing she knew, she was next to him, surrendering whatever trace of logic was left.
The next morning, was a morning like no other. They were 2 people in love, happy and perfectly at peace with life's shortcomings. They knew the situation they were in and knew that it was perfect. Both of them called in sick at work and spent the whole day together, laughing and having fun. He left by the evening flight and promised he wouldn't come back this time around. They both giggled over it.
She got home and knew that Utopia was where she lived in the last 24 hours. She knew she'd go through the pain of nostalgia, but she also knew that she felt complete and happy today.
She looked at her checklists on the fridge. She realized that the best things in life are never a part of a checklist. They just happen when you don't plan for them. She crashed on the bed and smiled - a smile of victory to her life.
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 4:12 PM 3 comments
Labels: Fiction, Story-Telling.
Monday, March 8, 2010
And wishes come true :)
Dint I tell you my life has reached a period of legendary weekends?
So after all those months of GMAT, switching jobs, staying up all night to write essays, pestering ex-bosses to write recommendations, I finally have heard from the 1st college that I had applied to. And I have heard on the affirmative! Yes, I am joining ISB Class of 2011 on April 12 :)
So it is back to Hyderabad for me now. Yes, the stale Hyderabad but I am not complaining. It's new people, new campus, some old friends and a year of frolic.
So blogging will either increase a lot or decrease a lot! Tomorrow (hopefully) is my last day at work. It's then back home to arrange the monies and eat some awesome food and go for long walks by the beach with mom. And then shop for college.
Hyderabad, get ready - your lucky charm is back ;-)
P.S: Ya Ive chucked my American dream. At least for the moment.
Friday, February 26, 2010
There are good weekends, there are great weekends and then there are legendary weekends.
No prizes for guessing, my life has entered the zone of legendary weekends. 1 of my 5 girls is now engaged and all set to tie the knot in August. We always knew she'd be the 1st to get married and we were right. (unless one of us ties the knot in a jiffy in the next 3 months. naaah!) The news was revealed in our own style - the pictionary style. Yes we guessed looking at pictures and did not react out of sheer disbelief. There was this deafening silence to start with and then deafening shouts of Oh My God!! thereafter. Of course, there was unlimited alcohol and crazy drunkenness and dancing followed. Then there was the quiet time in the balcony where everyone was drunk beyond wits and we were letting those skeletons out of our closets.
Next morning was all about dealing with hangovers and planning for that day's lunch and all the lunches and dinners we would do before the big day. There is a designer visit for the sarees, the jewelry store trips and trying to figure what to gift the bride. And of course the bachelorette party which will be something no one has seen ever before. I wont give the details out because the bride is an occasional reader at this space! :)
There is also the saga of goosebumps and denial and acceptance and happiness and sadness that follows with the first wedding in a bunch of childhood/teenage friends. But all in all there is only one way to describe the mood of the season - Happyyyy!
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 4:55 PM 1 comments
Monday, February 15, 2010
Hearts bleed.
It is not always that a terror attack chokes your voice. An average human being almost never dies of a terror attack. It is perfectly normal to want to write slogans and feel empathetic towards a nation's loss. But how does one justify weird imaginations?
Those bastards planted bombs in my German bakery. In OUR German Bakery. There might be 20,000 other people writing about this right now but each one of us is going through a different feeling in a painfully similar way. I've spent umpteen weekends at German Bakery with the girls and with my sister. The coffee pot, the apple pie, the tiramisu cake and the mushroom omlette. The cigarette stall next door and the silver jewelery shops. Those handbags and embroidered t-shirts on the 1st floor. Those sign boards saying - Drugs and Pets not allowed. Those wooden stools and the cute chink waiters. Those men and women in white/maroon chogas. Those little kids coming in to sell flowers... that's German Bakery for all of us.
My German bakery is mindless laughter with the girls. That evening with Cams when his bike was towed away. That afternoon when we played 3-things-you-hate-about-me and fought like school children. Those celebrations for everything - from passing Physical Exam to French, buying scooters, cars, new cell phones, cameras, birthdays, break-ups, holidays, new jobs, joblessness. We've celebrated life in general at German bakery.
Somehow when I saw the video clippings on TV I kept imagining that one evening when we went after Gayu bought her car. It rained that evening. We clicked so many pictures and had so much fun it is inexplicable. Today I kept imagining all of us getting blown up in the midst of our giggle fits. I know, it is a sick imagination but the fact is it could've very well been us. If not for Budds' plan of coming to Bombay, I was supposed to be in Pune and we would, in all odds, be in German bakery on a Saturday evening.
Germany Bakery must pick itself up and get operational soon. I hope it is just a rumor that its shut for good. This Saturday we'll go see whatever is remaining of our German Bakery.
You bastards, you can kill us. Try killing our memories. Hah!
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 11:52 PM 1 comments
Labels: Testimony of my love
Sunday, February 7, 2010
Twenty Five and Counting.
I always wanted a cake-less birthday. I always wanted a birthday without friends yelling for 24 hours straight and shoving alcohol down my throat and buying me flowers, gifts, balloons. I always wanted one birthday where I sleep until late in the morning, don't go anywhere out and read a lot. My 25th birthday is a landmark day for me. So what if I dont have any of the things I wanted to have on this day, but at least I willed silence hard enough to get some peace of mind through the day and 3 hours of absolute solitude in the night. It was nice to spend an hour over the phone having mindless conversation with someone just as mindless as me.
I gifted myself an external hard disc and an anti-virus. I did a quiet dinner with family. At the tick of 12 marking the end of that birthday, my best friend called me and I burst out laughing. 7 straight years and he still thinks it is on the 7th, not 6th.
I have always been quite excited about growing up. I still am. I like the way it makes me rigid and how I fight that rigidity. I like the way it makes me look forward to bigger, better, more elusive things in life. Growing up is a mystery that gets only more complex as time moves. It never simplifies the puzzle. And that's where the fun is. Growing up is not boring. It is difficult at times, yes, but there has never been a dull day in this process.
Of course, there is the painful drill of birthdays where you do an (un)reality check and assess what your net assets and net liabilities are. The balance sheet never tallies and the profits are not evident and you only hope you will see them in another 2 years. Birthdays are a sorry reminder of what you are not and what you don't have and a mocking solace of all the trivial things you've managed to stumble up on, carefully picked up and made them look like achievements. Birthdays are a date stamp against all the goods and bads of your life. I have never understood the need to mark red-letter days anyway. One day in a year (2 when you are married) to celebrate being who you are? Now that's being fucking low on self esteem. I'd rather celebrate being who I am each time I feel close to myself, on days I want to hug myself and say 'you'r a rock star', on days I smile at no one in particular while walking on the dirty bylanes of a stinking Bombay.
I don't hate birthdays. I can't deny the fact that its a logical celebration - to celebrate the precise moment you came into being and to thank your parents for having faith in you even before you were born and bringing you in the world knowing you will live.
I wonder if at the pretext of saying birthdays are trivial, I ended up giving it too much importance in this post and in my life in general.
On a side note, February is a beautiful month of the year to be born in.
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 1:05 PM 3 comments
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Essay - My House
I wrote this essay when I was 5. And I spoke of all that I had in my house. 4 rooms, a lawn, a car, loving parents, a sibling. On the verge of 25, I write this essay again. And I realize I don't have a house yet. I have a few places with loved ones I can call home and go live at but I don't have a house.
I don't have a house that's devoid of noise and that feels like me. I don't have a house with a reading room - a room with wall-to-wall mattresses on the floor with shelves on 4 walls that stock books. I don't have a house with a small living room. If only I had a house it would have had pictures in solid black frames. It would be a house with plants and without fish. If I had a house it'd smell of old books and lime. The house would have no extra racks. My house wouldn't have collections of antics. If I had a house, it wouldn't have a mini-bar. This hypothetical house of mine would be a purpose driven house, not aesthetics driven. It would have sunlight that I couldn't handle. It would have 2 long chairs. Just 2. The house would feel like me and have bright colors.
If I had a house, it would have no calendars but would have a huge wall clock. You ask why? So I'd know how many hours more I could read in the room with the wall-to-wall mattresses and how many hours before I drew the curtains. The clock would tell me when to water the plants and when to step out to smile at random people on streets. I'd sleep well before the clock strikes 12 and guess what? I wouldn't have to bother about the ticking calendar.
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 11:07 PM 1 comments
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Escape is easier than change. So I love vacations!
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 2:50 PM 2 comments
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
A memory is what is left when something happens and does not completely unhappen.
Happy New Year peeps!!!
I've been meaning to write for a while now but there has been no happy thing to write about. I wanted my 1st post of 2010 to be a happy one and if you see my blogger drafts for the last 20 odd days - you'd feel so bad for me. I churned out some semi-finished depression filled posts. I've been going through this endless process of submitting applications, staying up all night and working at office (a thankless bitch of a place!) This kinda schedule leaves little or no time for basics like food and sleep, forget blogging.
Anyway, cribs apart, I've been listening to some very cute telugu music (trying to read up lyrics and wondering what the mumble-jumble of vowels is all about! hell yes, its my mother tongue but still!) and anything telugu brings only 1 memory to my mind. No, not mom's weekly routine of sambar rice. It reminds me of my 2.5 years at Hyderabad. Those 2.5 yrs which gave me my budds for a good memory and a zillion other things for a bad memory. I hated the first breeze of that place when I landed there. I hated where my hotel was. I hated the locality where I moved in. I hated those malls that stocked piles of tasteless clothes. I hated those movie theatres which almost never played good movies and when they did, there'd be no tickets available. I hated the streets where people spat paan on your pants. I hated those mindless flyovers running from somewhere to nowhere and from nowhere to yet another nowhere - clogging traffic and making you sick of looking at tasteless buildings lined next to each other for 10s of kilometers. I hated the night clubs - they were a hangout zone for a bunch of rich wannabes figuring out how a mojito is different from a long island iced tea. I hated how the only bearable place in the face of hyd, a quaint little cafe at jubilee rd no. 36, called my cafe latte turned into a monstrous and ugly and loud coffee bar. When it was small, we spent every weekend for 6 months at the cafe, talking to the waiter in marathi and buying classic milds for the weekend at the pan shop next to it.
We spent countless hours at those bad malls, on those crowded flyovers, in those bad cafe coffee days and baristas, stood in those long queues for movies, walked on those risky bylanes, went to those bad clubs with bad music and terrible crowd and shook a leg, got fooled by half of the town, spoke endlessly about mindless topics like love and past, sat at home out of frustration, downed zillions of litres of tea, coffee, read books, slept, sat and did nothing, went to spas for massage and ate bad sandwiches thereafter for hundreds of rupees.
Me and budds were eager to leave Hyd the day we went there until the day we left. But why am I not surprised that cute telugu songs bring back memories of hyderabad, not in a bad taste, but in a tone of reminiscence? That's because we spent every day at Hyd telling ourselves - these are the best days of our life, no matter how fucked up they are, they are good because we are together. To have fun, to crib, bitch, to get wasted, to do nothing and to do everything.
And boy were we right!
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 4:13 PM 2 comments
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Year end Rover-isms!
It's a bad time to write a post, aint it? I mean people are out visiting places and here I am typing on a screen? Well, I am having such a gala time that I had to write!!
Vacation, Parents, extended family, new members in the family (cuuuute little baby girl, to be precise) loads and loads of sleep, yuuummy food, touristy trips in cramped up cars, sleeping on mattresses strewn all over the place because there are 30 people in a 5 bedroom house, waking up in the night and crossing over people's legs like you are in a refugee camp, sneaking to the terrace and talking over the phone to the girls, cracking nasty jokes and beating up brother. Now THAT is life!
Well 2 legs of my 3-leg vacation are over. One was with sister with parents and the other was extended family in remote parts of India. It has been so awesome so far. Now it is time to relax, unwind, shop and of course, sit peacefully and finish some writing for MBA Apps.
I sometimes think to myself I am such a list-freak. I made wishlists and some more wishlists and so many new year resolutions and loads of other lists. I accomplish about 40% of what I say and end up doing soooo many other exciting things that I could've never imagined. Like living in 3 odd cities in 2009 and dating some menace in the name of men, for instance. And guess what, despite knowing that my listing doesnt help much, I still make loads and loads of lists. And I am ready with many more new yr resolutions. The funniest part is my lists are as lame as they can get. Like lose weight, read more, eat healthy, reduce bills etc. haha! That's pretty much my list for this year too, actually! Oh ya, since Jinu V 2.5 will be launched in Feb (yes, I turn twenty freakin five!!!) there will be many more lists to ensure I dont hit quarter life crisis and I continue feeling like a bird or a fish or a kite or a pebble or a dry leaf (yes yes all those poetic things that are supposedly free!)
Ok I've lost the point. Anyway, I was deleting sms-es from my phone today and the one person who's sms-es I cant delete is NB Her love messages can very well get me rid of annoying boyfriends. All I have to do is rename her as a guy on my phone and people will think I am married :P I lovvvve u girl! And then theres my sister. Her messages are ALWAYS asking me to say sorry! I wonder why.
Anyway, it is not a great post for 30th December of any year but I feel happy about being so happy and for having all that I have. Though I could do with the job of a florist, you see. :)
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 6:51 PM 2 comments
Friday, December 18, 2009
Good girls go to heaven. Bad girls work at ad agencies.
Good girls become iBankers. Bad girls work for ad agencies. Good girls are the ambitious types.
Good girls become Chartered Accountants. Bad girls work for ad agencies. Good girls are the studious types.
Good girls become doctors. Bad girls work for ad agencies. Good girls are the respectable types.
Good girls get proposed 3 times in their life. Bad girls work for ad agencies. Good girls have a dearth of desperate men around them.
Good girls have a life. Bad girls work for agencies. Good girls have office timings on the lines of 9-5.
Good girls dress up. Bad girls work for agencies. Good girls have the time and motivation to dress up.
Good girls eat healthy food. Bad girls work for ad agencies. Good girls don't believe in alcoholism.
Good girls don't have bronchitis. Bad girls work for ad agencies. Good girls don't know how to light a cigarette.
Good girls sleep on time. Bad girls work for ad agencies. Good girls don't stay up all night for TVCs.
Good girls wear deodorant. Bad girls work for ad agencies. Good girls don't know how perfumes are different.
Good girls do the right things. Bad girls work for ad agencies. Good girls don't know how to live it up.
Good girls go to heaven. Bad girls go everywhere ;-)
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 6:58 PM 4 comments
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
New Year, New Decade, New URL.
It's that time of the year when we sum up the last 12 months. But end of 2009 marks the end of a decade too. I see newspapers, magazines, tv channels etc summing up a decade of the nation, economy, politics and the world in general. And my life is also quite eventful, at least eventful enough to command a decade-wrap post on my own blog!
Before I begin my looong never ending post, I'll just explain why I changed my URL - cuz when I started writing a year and half ago, 'whatjinuwants' made sense. Now it doesn't. I now feel like a rover in the head. It will change again when I stop feeling like something else, I guess. :)
2000-2009 saw me pass high school, graduate, meet some amazing people, work at amazing places and with some awesome colleagues, plan life, figure out who I am, what makes me happy and what troubles me a lot. I found lovers, best friends, lifelines, boyfriends. Life sorted me out in a lot of ways and confused me in some other ways. I moved from being torn apart about one thing to another. I inculcated virtues and adapted vices. I lied, got lied to, I did not cheat but got cheated. I realized life is not always fair but it all evens out in the end. I learnt how to follow my heart, retain dignity, look beyond the trivial and be happy. Just happy. With or without it. Whatever that 'it' is.
I made plans and I failed plans. I cried less and I did not hate anyone. I went on to be more laid-back, less focused and found peace in being direction less. I experimented with loads of things
I learnt what being rooted means and why blood ties are so beautiful. I learnt that only a mother's love is unconditional. I realized how I hate waking up in a room with more than 2 other people. I learnt cheating is a need and not all acid tests are meant to be passed. I realized everyone has a reason for doing what one does. I learnt how to give benefit of doubt.
What I did not learn was coding, mountaineering, giving myself enough time, saying a firm no and swimming. I did not learn how to get better at a debate and how to talk less.
The new decade brings with it some promises and some fears. I will go for higher education - don't know where and when. I might just find myself a soul-mate or a companion for life and if I am plain unlucky, a husband - just that. I will enter the 25th year of life and will look at exploring life more - a lot more. In a nutshell, I've had a great decade with few mishaps and some tremendous experiences.
If there is one thing I have to take away from this decade to the next, it'll be just one lesson - That everything happens for a reason. A good reason.
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 4:58 PM 3 comments
Monday, November 30, 2009
Random updates
I dont have much to write... its just that I feel like writing :P
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Half of my heart.
There are these days when reality comes, slaps your face, pulls your hair, screams into your ears and says - Face it!
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 7:32 PM 3 comments
Labels: Friends, Life, Me, Testimony of my love
Friday, November 13, 2009
The greatest risk in life is not taking one.
…and I've taken mine. Again.
I wonder if life is indeed this unpredictable or is it just me. I think it's just me. If I were to put a timestamp against last evening's events, I'd say I traveled from North pole to South Pole in a span of 30 mins - FLAT.
I moved from being complacent to irritated to happy to scared to insecure to i-don’t-care to I'm-done in a matter of 3 - 4 weeks. I know it looks damn unbecoming of a 24 yr old to go through all this on some important/practical aspects of life. I learnt that marriage is not like buying vegetables. If you do that, you indeed end up buying yourself a vegetable. If you want to buy something that's not a vegetable, then you can't buy it - because it is NOT a vegetable! If you end up (like me) being able to actually buy a diamond at the pretext of buying a vegetable, then you are wasting a gem. Do yourself a favor and let go.
I am not any more grown up after this saga but in fact I have come to terms with the fact that I am far from being grown up. Just as I learnt the meaning of Surreal a few months ago, I learnt the meaning of Commitment-Phobia yesterday. I chickened out exactly at the time when any other girl would be swept off her feet. I am scared of getting swept-off. I like being grounded. That's my comfort zone.
I feel the same way I felt twice (or maybe thrice) earlier in my life - Light. So light. And yet again, I know that only truth can get you peace. Mince words and you are fucked. Speak your heart out and people appreciate it. At least my friends did. They are shocked and relieved at the same time.
I think past, future, love, companionship and practicality are so overrated. I have made peace with my career plans, my instability of head and heart, my juvenile behavior at inappropriate times and who I am in general. Now life will take its own course.
They say 'Choose your own fate, else someone else will choose it for you.'
I choose to choose my own fate.
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 8:15 PM 9 comments
Monday, November 9, 2009
Pink and Purple weekend.
So it was a great weekend. I went to Hyd for an interview at a world-class B-School. I did a mediocre or even a sub-standard job of convincing the panel as to why they should take me. I couldn't articulate my thoughts well. My answers did not convince me, let alone convince someone else!
But for a change it was not something that bothered me. I did not come out with a heavy heart or a sinking feeling, which I otherwise do when things don't go my way. I loved the sight of a campus and I knew I want to be there on some campus - this or some other. I felt small in front of the interview panel, which again was a great feeling. When you are surrounded by people who think you are doing great for yourself, it is important to have someone criticize you and wake you up from your fairytale dream . I felt I have a long way to go and at the same time I felt convinced that I was doing the right thing.
There was of course more to the weekend than that. There was the best time ever spent with Cams. There was watching of 8 movies, head massage, making omelets for breakfast and dal rice curry for lunch. There was going out at midnight for ice cream. There was feeling sick and getting pampered. He stood at the interviewee lobby at the campus, like a body guard, in t-shirt and denims without for once feeling awkward around all the immaculately dressed candidates. He was way more nervous than I was! He spoke to me about certain life-changing decisions of my life and gave me some perspective.
I felt I never left Hyd and he never got married. All the credit goes to him for treasuring me and loving me a little more every passing day. I haven't had a 'Thank God I have him/her' feeling in so long! I left in the morning with mixed feelings - so happy that I have him and so sad that our little vacation was over.
And as always, I know that one good time comes to an end only to make way to another.
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 4:31 PM 2 comments
Labels: Hyderabad, Mba, Testimony of my love, Vacations
Monday, November 2, 2009
Work hard, Die Hard.
Agencies do this to you.
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 8:04 PM 2 comments
Labels: Bombay, Business and lessons, Me, My life
Friday, October 30, 2009
(Not) Just another day in my life...
Funny things happen to me all the time.
Last evening was particularly weird. I had a laughter bout with my colleagues for about 15 minutes and I was in the highest of spirits after a really long time. Just while I decided to pack up and leave with a few of them for a drink and a bite, I had a stupid argument with another colleague. Totally ticked off I decided to go gulp it and call it a night not before the clock struck 12.
Still to take an auto, I heard from a client and had some work piled on me at 8 in the evening. We decided to split at about 10 so we could all go home and work some more. (Agencies are a mean, ruthless place to work for. A post will probably follow soon! ) We went all over Bandra looking for an open bar only to hear from an auto driver that it was a dry-day!! We have dry-days in India exactly when half the town is desperate for a drink. :|
With no motivation to eat, I decided to head home. I have a rather long journey back home from work. Non-peak hours take me a little more than an hour to get home. I waited at the bus-stop for what seemed like eternity. After 25 minutes of standing, bored of the 8GB music on my iPod I couldn’t wait to sit in the bus and catch a quick nap so I could get to work as soon as I reached.
Just as I took a seat in the bus somebody sat next to me and asked 'coming back from work?' I was taken aback and realized it was a psycho. Some doped out idiot spoke to me incessantly until I reached my stop. I did not speak a single line but he was hilarious! He told me his name, age, profession (or the lack of it) marital status, hobbies, family and what not. He sang a song to me about strangers since I wasn't talking to him and how he thought I wasn't talking because my mom said - Do not talk to strangers! He told me how he thinks Bombay is such a lonely place and how he will soon go to Dehradun!
He soon sickened out since I wouldn't talk to him. He then spoke to the bus driver, gave him a shoulder massage and started singing songs with the radio that was playing in the background. All in all a harmless but idiotic co-passenger. I swear if I were not that pissed off, I would have spoken to him at length and have had a nice time :P
Anyhow, I got home only to hear some snide remarks from my brother about how I loaf around the place. How I wish that was true! Super-irritated I skipped dinner and crashed only to have a series of nightmares.
So glad it’s a new morning now!
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 12:32 PM 0 comments
Friday, October 23, 2009
Reality Check
Let's face it. Every girl has a conversation with her chic friends about 'the dream boy.' And the answers are always quite idealistic. Typically there are 4 broad categories of answers-
'Ok he HAS to be fun, outgoing, shouldn't take things to seriously, and is chilled out.'
'Ok he HAS to be rich, I am so used to my fancy cars man… I can never do without them!'
Ok he should be a simple, intellectual, smiling face, pleasant guy.'
'Dude he's gotta be good looking man.. I want beautiful babies :P'
… and it goes on.
I have also given some crazy answers depending on what frame of mind I was in. In fact I gave different answers at bookshops, coffee shops, pubs, rock shows, office, home etc. Now that I am faced with a real life situation, I am stumped. I want a bit of everything I said and I want nothing of most things I said. I am doubting my own conviction of a lot of things. I have realized I don't know what is important for me.
If I were to define who I am, it won't be more than my credentials. Some deep dive and I see that I am nothing more than my past. A past that I never planned, never asked for. A past that I love and a past that I don't think could have been any other way. And today I am trying to predict my future based on my past. I am trying to create a future. I am convincing myself that I can be a little different from what I have so far been. But how true is that? I always said I want someone who lets me be who I am. But do I want to continue being who I am? What AM I anyway? If only I knew!
I wish everything was as easy as making friends. Where we start without inhibitions, expectations and pretence. Where there is no point to prove and there is no debate of right or wrong. Where we know the other person not by asking questions but by watching them.
And then there is the love. I think experiences are not such a great tool after all. Wonder where love fits in the mesh of practicality, companionship, dependence, independence and life in general. I think that zone where discomfort becomes a habit and comfort is taken for granted is called love.
… just when I was wondering whether or not to end this post and how, my iPod shuffles and brings me to this song -
Hold on to whatever you find baby, hold on to whatever will get you through… I don't trust myself with loving you...
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 6:12 PM 5 comments
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Blah Blah Blah
There is this post I've been attempting to write since what seems like eternity. I edit it every single day and look for the right words - that never, just never come out. It's a good-bye post. It is to say goodbye to my lifeline for the last 8 years - as she takes off from India for good.
Saturday, October 3, 2009
Mumbai meri jaan
So here I am, in Bombay - after a 3 day vacation with the girls which cost me 1200 INR, all inclusive :)
Saturday, September 19, 2009
Where is the good in a goodbye?
Posted by Jinu Peyeti at 12:13 AM 6 comments